Guide to Using Realistic Dildos

Assuming you like the lifelike sensations of penises, realistic dildos are the closest you will get to the real thing without an actual person.

Penises were created by nature to provide pleasure, making them an ideal shape for anal or vaginal penetration. Realistic dildos just happen to come in all different sizes and are always ready to please. They can also provide gender euphoria for trans and nonbinary folks.

Choosing Your Realistic Dildo

Realistic dildos are fantastic for fantasy exploration as well. Picture it: the dildo is actually your celebrity crush and you get to star in your own steamy scene together. But do you go about finding the most realistic feeling dildo? Read on!

Selecting the Right Size

As purveyors of pleasure, we are confident in saying that most people's eyes are bigger than their holes. This is especially true of anal toys. It is always best to start small and work your way up to larger sizes. Think of it like training a muscle: you start light and gradually work through heavier and heavier weights. If you don't, you're going to be in pain the next day. Your butt is composed of muscles, and the same theory applies.

Selecting the Right Shape

You know your body best and which shape is "just right." When it comes to shape, consider the positions you play in, and what you will primarily be using the toy for. b-Vibe Dildos are available in two shapes — Slipskin Curvy Dildo and Slipskin Girthy Dildo.

Will you be using your realistic dildo for pegging? If so, you need to find one that fits securely into a harness and is easy to manage. All of our realistic dildos are pegging harness-compatible and shaped and textured to stimulate all of your hot spots, with a slight curve to tantalize the G, P, and A-Spots.

How to Lubricate

We cannot stress the importance of lube enough. This is especially important with anal because the anus doesn't lubricate itself. Water-based lubricants are universal and safe to use with any sex toy, making it your safest bet.

Since our realistic dildos are made from premium silicone, they are not compatible with silicone-based lubricants, as they may deteriorate the surface of the toy over time. When using lube, apply to the dildo, the anal orifice, and inside the orifice for best results.

How to Use a Realistic Dildo

The following techniques will show you exactly how to use realistic dildos, be it solo or with a partner, so that you can experience otherworldly orgasms every time.

Anally

Our realistic dildos were made with anal sex in mind and are shaped to provide optimal pleasure. However, realistic dildos will have the unique texture, shape, and attributes of a penis, meaning there is a chance that it may be more challenging to insert initially. Make sure to use lots of lube on the toy, your anus, inside your anus, and re-apply if you experience uncomfortable friction. When inserting the toy, go slowly and aim the curve toward your belly button for prostate stimulation.

Vaginally

Warm yourself up by rubbing the realistic dildo on your external genitalia (clitoris, vulva, labia). Next, lubricate the toy. When inserting, you want the curve to point toward the belly button so it hits the G-Spot. Insert the dildo slowly and get comfortable with it. Then move the toy in and out shallowly until you build a rhythm that feels good. As you get more comfortable, experiment with depth and angles to find your sweet spots.

With a Pegging Harness

Our realistic dildos are pegging harness compatible and are designed for an optimal pegging experience. To use, remove the O ring (that helps hold the dildo in place) from the harness and slide your realistic dildo through the ring, just under the testicles. Then attach the ring to the harness with the snaps.

Next, step into your harness and adjust the straps to where it feels most comfortable. When you're ready to insert, guide the lubricated dildo with your hand and, when it's in, you're able to go hands-free and start pegging!

P.S. If you or your partner need convincing with strap-on penetration, check out this article on what does getting pegged feel like and Zachary Zane AKA The Boyslut on his pegging sex story.

Simulating a Hand Job or Oral Sex

If giving oral and digital sex gets you hot and bothered, you can do both on a realistic dildo. It can be pretty hot to watch a partner perform with one, or it can be a pressure-free way to work on some new techniques or practice deep-throating. Just use a lubricant so your mouth isn't solely reliant on saliva. It will also make for slicker, quicker movements with the hand.

With a Partner for Double Penetration

Always insert one object at a time, and get comfortable with the first before considering the second. Never do both simultaneously as it might overwhelm the body. When the first is inserted and you're ready for another, adjust your positioning to comfortably accept the second. This could be as simple as elevating your hips with a pillow. Rider on top and doggy style are likely the positions to explore.

Worth noting: some pegging harnesses have two holes, making them ideal for those seeking double penetration. Curious? Check out our 15 top tips on how to do double anal penetration.